Children can suffer harm or abuse in a number of ways. Either through:

• their care being neglected
• suffering sexual abuse
• being physically hurt
• or being emotionally harmed

Most of us worry more about strangers abusing our children. But unfortunately, when children are abused, it is usually by someone they know.

As parents, you know your child best and you will usually be the first to notice if something seems wrong.

Things to look out for

• changes in your child’s behaviour, becoming upset for no reason etc
• unusual marks or bruises without good reason or explanation
• your child seeming wary, anxious, or unusually withdrawn
• signs that routine basic care has not been provided
• or sexualised behaviour unusual for your child or beyond the child’s knowledge

It is difficult to provide a full list. Therefore, it is best for you to rely on your instincts as a parent and note any changes that seem particularly worrying.

If you suspect your child has been harmed

If you suspect that your child has been harmed, try to stay calm and try to communicate with your child in a calm manner.

• Try to find out how they are and if they have any fears or worries.
• If a specific injury has occurred, find out if anything has happened to them that they are unhappy with.
• Try not to ask leading questions or make assumptions.
• You may want to get support from a trusted friend or relative but you should always tell your child’s Social Worker. The Social Worker will make an assessment of the situation and take further steps if necessary.
• If your child does not have a Social Worker you should still tell a Social Worker by telephoning Children’s Services on 01724 296500 01724 296500. Ask to be put through to a duty Social Worker. The Social Worker will always listen carefully to you and will take your concerns seriously.

Children at immediate risk

If it is an emergency and your child is at immediate risk then you should contact the Police by dialling 999.

If the Social Worker assesses that your child may have suffered or is suffering significant harm, then they will discuss the matter with the Police and investigate it. This may involve talking to your child by Social Workers and Police Officers whom are trained in communicating with children and young people.

Your child will always be supported through the process. All referrals relating to a child being harmed or abused will result in a Children’s Services Assessment being undertaken. This assessment is about your child’s needs, and your needs as a parent.

If the allegations are about someone who works with children, then there are special procedures for dealing with this that include considering the safety of other children.

On behalf of the North Lincolnshire LSCB, agencies are working together on a project. It will provide a specialist service to children and young people who have engaged in harmful sexual behaviour (HSB). This includes harm to other children, young people and themselves.

The service has a ‘virtual team’ of multi-agency practitioners who have been trained in:

• the issues surrounding HSB
• in specialist assessment using the AIM2 method

Harmful Sexual Behaviour Panel

In addition, there is a HSB Panel with representatives from lots of agencies.

In general terms, the purpose of the Panel is to:

• act as a steering group for the project
• act as the referral and allocation route for the service, and
• act as a source of knowledge, expertise and support for the practitioner team.

The Harmful Sexual Behaviour Project Terms of Reference plus Referral pathway [PDF, 711Kb] has further information about the Panel.